Couples Therapy in Pleasanton & Online Across California
You’re here because something isn’t working. You’re stuck in the same fight, not fighting at all and just drifting further apart. The connection feels buried under stress, resentment, or silence. Therapy helps you get to the root of what’s not working and build something better—without the guesswork.
helping couples get out of survival mode, communicate better and feel like a team again.
You’re here because you want real support, not vague affirmations. My style is warm, honest, and straight to the point. I’ll help you feel seen, but I won’t let you stay stuck. Together, we’ll sift through the junk, name what’s actually going on, and build tools that work in real life—not just in theory.
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Support That Moves You Forward
I help couples stop guessing and start rebuilding. We slow things down, look at what’s driving the conflict, and learn how to show up differently—because really, you want to laugh together and reignite your sex life. You don’t have to keep repeating the same fight or wondering if this relationship can survive. There’s a way through, and it starts here.
- Feeling more like roommates than partners → Rebuild emotional intimacy and shared purpose
- Walking on eggshells or shutting down → Create safety and speak without fear or defensiveness
- Repeating the same fight with no resolution → Learn tools to break the cycle and repair after conflict
- Navigating neurodivergence in the relationship → Understand each other’ and needs with compassion
- Questioning whether the relationship can survive → Clarify what’s possible and reconnect with what brought you together
specializing in Couples therapy:
Hi, I'm Alanna Esquejo, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#151443) based in Pleasanton, CA. I bring not just professional expertise but a deep, personal understanding of life's complexities. I proudly identify as BIPOC—raised by a multi-racial mother and a Mexican father. I am a wife, mama of two fur babies and one human little. I have firsthand experience with interracial relationships, neurodivergence, blended families, loved ones with addictions, and working with incarcerated individuals. These experiences have shaped my perspective on identity, resilience, and relationships.
Alanna Esquejo, LMFT
Located in East Bay Area
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The stress it took to arrive is starting to spill into your personal life. You feel disconnected from your relationships, your purpose, maybe even yourself. The drive that once fueled you now feels more like pressure. And the fulfillment you expected? It’s missing.
You didn't work this hard to be overwhelmed, you want more meaningful experiences with yourself and your relationships. We’ll look at what’s working, what’s not, to help you build a way of living and leading that feels more balanced, and true to you.
Individual Therapy
You’re stuck in the same fight. Or maybe you’re not fighting at all. You want to connect but you're tired of having the same fight. You have gotten to the point of sitting in silence and feeling miles apart in the same room.
You might be questioning whether this relationship can work. Maybe you’ve considered separating—not because you don’t care, but because you can’t seem to get back to the way things were.
It can get better, you just need someone to call out these unhelpful patterns. I will guide you through a way to understand and communicate what's buried beneath the years of miscommunication. Let’s get you back to enjoying time together. You remember what made you fall in love with this person—even if lately, it’s been hard to see.
Couples Therapy
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Groups
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Intensives offer another way. Intensives is just a way to describe extended sessions or accelerated therapy. They provide opportunity to have get focused support when weekly therapy isn’t enough. Whether you’re a couple navigating high-conflict dynamics or an individual seeking clarity and structure around ADHD, intensives create space to break through and build real momentum.
It’s time to reclaim your energy, your relationships, and your sense of direction.
